You Can Tell A Lot About a Person

Friday, April 3, 2015

By how they treat those who can do nothing for them.

My family always taught me that the best way to get a glimpse of someone's true personality is to see how they treat the waiter/waitress. This is a person who serves you no real future purpose and has to be nice to you no matter how you treat them, because their job depends on it. Being kind to them is not for some ulterior motive or done so because they will pay you back one day. It is just to show that you have the common courtesy and respect for another human being. It is an easy, true reflection of your ability to project basic and pure altruism.

"I speak to everyone in the same way, whether he is the garbage man or the president of the university.”   -Albert Einstein

In my experience, those who treat the waiter poorly tend to be the same people who only care about the status of those they surround themselves with. These are people who are trying to climb the social ladder at the expense of those who help them along the way. They say to themselves "why waste my energy on someone who can't get me where I want to be?". They don't realize that their desire to be seen and venerated is insatiable and spiritually unfulfilling. It doesn't cost energy to be kind to everyone. In fact, it gives you energy and peace of mind to know that you are helping to uplift the consciousness level of the world around you. You're bringing good karma to the world and it always pays you back. (Often in not-so-obvious ways).

When you are not selective with your kindness, you will start to see the world as a more positive, forgiving, and welcoming place. You will realize that you are a contributing part of this flow, and that the rewards of living a life of good karma are much greater than those of "not wasting your smiles" or "saving your energy for those you love." Being kind to those only directly in your nucleic life sphere is the same as only respecting your own personal possessions, not the energy and nature of the world as a whole.

It is easy to seclude your positive vibes for those who are close to you, but it is important not to do this. Learning to love everyone and see them as innocent before proven guilty will teach you to love better in general, and therefore will bring out the best in even your most prized relationships. In this way, you are no longer dependent on specific people to bring you happiness, because the world is abundant with those who can make you feel similarly, just on smaller scales. Unconditional love in this way ultimately brings you emotional independence!



  1. I think this is sooo important- especially when looked at with the impact of social media: People so initially think of themselves above or even below others, so your point about treating everybody equally is so important and (like you said) sometimes difficult. I know its something I've had to work on. Love love love this post.

  2. I totally agree. I am originally from India and I have noticed that Indians in general don't respect individuals in the service industry. These are the people who talk to us with a smile on their faces, despite having a thousand worries on their minds.
    After moving to the US, I have met nicer people who are respectful towards each other.
    A smile or a greeting from a stranger is enough for a positive vibe, which in turn would spread across whoever we meet.
    Great blog, Dayna! I came across your blog a few days ago and I love the mixture of topics you cover here.

  3. It is very hard to be kind to someone, even if there rude. I feel like everyone should be the waitress/waiter in the situation. If that happened the world would be such a better place.

  4. Thank you so much for posting this. I feel like this is such an obvious concept but most people don't seem to understand it. Hopefully, the women who look up to you will find these words inspiring. I always try to get people to understand that kindness is absolutely not a weakness! I would much rather be friends with someone who has nothing but is kind than someone who has everything but is rude. Being nice to everyone you meet is so important because it shows them that they matter and you care about their feelings. Also, you may be rude to a waitress only to find out that her father is your boss (you never know). Everyone should be as nice as you can to every person/animal you meet without ending up being a push over (know the limits!).

  5. I really love your outlook on life and how you talk about so many unique things on your blog. I always look forward to reading your new posts. Also, I am a fellow vegan ! I am glad you're loving the lifestyle (: xx

    1. Yay so glad to hear all those things!



By Dayna Frazer