Embracing "Imperfections"

Saturday, February 6, 2016



I've seen a lot of negative comments on a photo taken of me recently which accentuates my crooked front teeth. I took these comments down not because they are hurtful -- but because I don't want other women to think that "Oh, if this woman has a flaw that society is clearly deeming ugly, then what am I to think of my own flaws?"
By insulting one person for not fitting into a mold, we are not just affecting them. We are sending a message that our own "flaws" are unacceptable and ugly, and the "flaws" of other women are the same. If we don't fit the mold, we are essentially not beautiful in those ways. This needs to stop, if not only to help create a world where all girls can feel safe in their own skin.

 I could not afford braces growing up, and I am personally pleased that I did not go out of my way to get them. I didn't have a medical need for "fixing" my teeth, so it would have been purely aesthetic. I love my teeth and have learned to embrace them through many means. People have picked on me for it as well as told me they are beautiful, but I've just learned to not let it matter too much. It's lovely we have the option to change things, but pointing out that someone is flawed for not doing so in a way brings every woman down.

All I can say I've learned through my personal journey is that there is no one definition of beauty. In modeling even, I can't think of any one face that you could define as the epitome of what beautiful means. It's kind of a paradox. There is no perfect. I know it's said so often but if you really let it resonate through you, it is such a relief when you understand that what makes you different actually does make you special and "beautiful." 

We are told that "this is what beautiful looks like" so that we buy products, in hopes of being accepted. So often an ideal is marketed to us so that we invest in makeup and clothes. People will reinforce these particular ideals by bullying girls and even women into thinking they are ugly for not being all of those things. People like this are just part of the problem of perpetuating insecurities not for that person they are targeting, but for girls and women everywhere.

Next time you may be thinking of saying something negative about another woman's (or man's) appearance, remember that everyone has flaws and we can't all be expected to look like one person. You doing so is saying that it's okay for someone to pick on you too! Let's all try to embrace the beauty in the unexpected and unfamiliar a little more, okay? :)

x

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  1. You look so much like the woman you posted from Love!!!! I kept laughing during the movie because she looks so much like you!!! Have a great day :-)

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  2. Love your smile and blog :) such an inspiration. I recently switched to a plant based diet and it's really nice to see people promoting it and sharing their experiences, so thank you!!

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    1. Yay! That's so amazing. You're so welcome xox

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  3. I fully agree with you! I have kinda a crooked nose, so does my friend. And we often mention that because we think it's sweet and funny that we have simmilar noses. One time I mentioned how I have a crooked nose in front of my mother and she said if it bothers me I can get a nose job one day. I can't imagine hurting my face and afterwards not recognizeing myself. I guess people that have a lot of insecurities and self-confiedence issues will undergo these kinds of procedures. But really we have to teach kids to love themselves and not to compare to others. There will always be mean people and all we can do is ignore them and be honest to others. If we think that something is pretty about someone, we should tell them. You never know how much it may mean to someone :)

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    1. I think you're absolutely right. Thank you for sharing! Big hugs xox

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  4. So happy you are able to take negative comments and dispose of them. This is beautifully written and highlights many key points in not only loving yourself, but others as well. There is no true beautiful mold, so why do we - specifically as women - tear one another down only to bring ourselves up? So happy you've found peace with your teeth and that you love yourself for your own beautiful "flaw" :).

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  5. Loved this post! I was also wondering if you take vitamin B12 supplements since it is harder for vegans get this vitamin. Do you have any brands for vitamins that you recommend? Thanks Dayna!

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    1. Thank you! And yes I do. I take Nature's Bounty sublingual B12, but any brand will do I think :)

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  6. i rly love this,i was kinda like that at first but ppl who r picking on me ,have many flaws or they're just trying to point out tjay there r flaws in me bc they're jealous ,and its great ur embracing it,i love ur teeth, and for the ppl who cant afford to get braces U DONT NEED IT,U LOOK PWETTY HAVING THE TEETH U WERE BORN W <333

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  7. I honestly love your crooked teeth. It makes you beautifully different. :)

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  8. You and your teeth are exceedingly beautiful, and it's refreshing that you embrace and celebrate that. You should! <3

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  9. Ugh you are so inspirational it kills me. I would love if you could do a post giving a kind of wardrobe tour. Recently I've been reading about Minimalism - having less, doing more. And I've been downsizing my wardrobe so much (which is really clearing my mental clutter) and I really love how you dress, so classy and simple. x

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    1. Aw thank you! I will definitely try. I just need to get a bit organized haha :) check out into-mind.com for some really great minimalist wardrobe tips, I love that site x

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  10. Yesss bless your sweet, sweet face. I needed this so bad, thank you

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  11. What happened to your Instagram account :( that's what brought me here :((
    Reading all youre blog post shows how down to earth and inspirational you are to everyone and how beautiful you are not only on the outside but also at the inside. Keep it up daynaaa XXxxx love lots

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  12. Dayna youre an inspiration to all shows you're down to earth personality and how beautiful you are not only on the outside but also inside . Keep it up . Love lots

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    1. Thank you so much! That means a lot. xox

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  13. thank you for this. I have crooked teeth too - actually, one crooked tooth - but my teeth are perfectly healthy and I never wanted to get braces. and I felt okay about my smile until people started making fun of it and I saw that no one ever likes girls like me! it felt so unfair. i stopped smiling and laughing - i felt ugly everytime I did! to be honest, I still feel like this sometimes. but seeing you and other women embracing their imperfections makes me love my smile a bit more. so thank you one more time.

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    1. We all feel that way sometimes! But I'm sure you are so beautiful inside and out :) and that just makes you even more unique. Big hugs xox

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  14. I love this post! Im in the process of starting a women's clothing and accesories line called "Purrfectly Flawed" and this is exactly the message i want to send out. i personally love your teeth. I think it makes you unique. So keep smilin' girl!

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