The Acceleration of Joy & Entering the "Vortex"

Monday, May 23, 2016

"Lend yourself to others, but give yourself to yourself." Michel de Montaigne.

I think I've usually rolled my eyes at the simple idea of "Just do what makes you happy." It's just not the way it works, I would say. We have to do the things ascribed to us in our socially constructed world that do not make us happy, in order to survive. I think I even wrote a post like this in the past, describing those exact thoughts! (In case you haven't noticed, my ideas grow and fluctuate as I learn myself, so this blog is a reflection of my own philosophical shifts. My ideas are not set in stone!)

When I say now to do what ultimately makes you happy, I should say that I do not mean "make every momentary decision based on a far off goal that you have." This results in social climbing, not enjoying the present (because you are only thinking about that distant happiness and how you should react skillfully to situations to get closer to it), and disappointment when or if that large potential source of happiness is not fulfilled. Take, for example, someone who wants to be a famous actor taking the "do what makes you happy" bit to just mean "become a famous actor"(distant future goal). This person has not experienced the feeling or closeness to actually becoming a famous actor. They do not necessarily EVEN KNOW that being this thing will bring them ultimate joy. It is an entirely imagined reality. It is an end to an end. The means to that end will not necessarily be important to this person and they may end up largely unhappy when they have not enjoyed the present AND not attained the big goal.

It was only when I stopped saying "I want to be this, no matter how I have to suffer to be it" that I have for once experienced the pure bliss and positive energy of my surroundings. It feels truly meta-physical. Things I once found mundane, because they were not bringing me closer to my imagined end-all of happiness (having a stable job, a big house with a garden, a husband, etc) now feel wonderful beyond words. For example, cooking. I never thought so so much about cooking in the past, because in my mind, it would not bring me money or bring me closer to my end goals. When I released myself from doing things because they will ultimately bring me something "greater" but instead began to do them because they brought me joy and CLOSER TO MY TRUEST SELF in that moment, opportunities suddenly began to present themselves to me. If I wanted to do this for a living, I could make it work! This was my new mentality. Not thinking about the end or the means, but just doing my favorite things and if they work, they work. If they don't, there's a reason for it and I will just have to "change the channel." Moving on! This is not working. This is too hard. This DOESN'T FEEL RIGHT. If it doesn't feel right. Move on. Change. When you do, and you keep flipping through the channels to try new things, you are bound to find that thing that brings you pure bliss. (* I am using this phrase based on the teachings of Abraham Hicks, a non-physical personality who "speaks" through a woman. It's very interesting and I suggest you watch him/her on youtube).

When we are stuck doing what society tells us to do, it makes it very hard to "change the channel." You want to say yes to doing the thing that brings you joy, but you are worried about the difficult rough patches it may bring (*for only a while... says the back of your mind). The ruckus it can cause. But really, so what? If you lose that security so what? It is making you uncomfortable. You are feeling crappy. You are out of the vortex of positive vibrations! Get out of there and unite with your true self. This is a good description I found from goodvibeblog: "Being in the vortex means you’re at one with who you really are, you’re feeling fab, and in vibrational alignment to your desires.  It’s represented by feelings like enthusiasm, inspiration, passion, joy, and appreciation. Being out of the vortex means you’re energetically kinked, not letting in the good stuff you’ve been calling in.  It often feels frustrated, hopeless, fearful, or angry."
What this all requires of you is, in every moment, to trust your gut. Your intuition. This is there for a reason. I believe we are much more premonitory and eternal than we give ourselves credit for and we need to trust our instincts more. Treat your intuition as a guide, and you will notice that saying yes to your gut in little ways like, yes self, "I think I will actually stay in tonight and read, even though my socially inclined & directed self would usually say yes. This tonight feels right to me." You don't even know why, but because you have this twisting feeling that if you go party, something bad will happen, it will pay off and make you feel RIGHT. Whereas if you went in order to fulfill someone else's idea of your happiness, you may have sat around feeling crappy the whole time. You can also have the opposite gut feeling, and do the opposite action. You just have to always do what seems the most like the truest you. Sometimes trusting your gut feels weird... "I don't think I want to hang out with her, but for some reason I think it feels right." This person may become your best friend because you followed your intuition about her. Say no when saying no feels right, even if it's hard. Say yes when saying yes feels right, even if it's hard.

A lot of this is hard to ground in science or example, but I can offer at least my own experience and then some suggested readings and videos. I have been stuck in situations that, from the outside, seemed stable and exciting, but I was continuing to experience those things largely to fulfill expectations and not shake anything up. Whenever I have had these experiences that did not feel quite right, they ended! And I am always thankful for that. When you are in something because it is labeled as "comfortable" you stay, even though you are worried all the time about losing it, or just about the stresses it brings in general! But eventually, you look back and realize: "that was not right. And I knew it too. I am so happy I followed my happiness to unknown pastures. Look where it brought me. I didn't have this present self as my end goal, but here I have somehow found more joy than where I was." Sometimes we don't even know we want something. We are like kids. We don't know what we want, so we pick the thing we know so far. You thought you wanted to be an actor, but then you're like what the hell! I'm a chef now? I'm so much happier. What was I thinking?" Allow yourself to be open to growing and learning, and don't be set in stone about what you think you want, I guess is what all of this is trying to get across. Whether in work, love, money, or all of the above, this applies. Be open to growing, and you will grow.

Here is a video by Abraham Hicks:
And I suggest the book Seth Speaks, by Jane Roberts and "Seth":


  1. This is an amazingly beautiful concept put into amazingly wonderful words. (: Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, your blog is an absolute pleasure to read! x

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  3. When I want to stay home and relax instead of going out, how do I know if I'm doing it because I'm listening to my gut or simply because it's comfortable?

  4. This is everything I have been feeling and struggling to express lately. Thank you for being brave and honest in this wonderful post!

  5. This post is everything I have been feeling and honestly trying to grapple with lately.

    I graduated college with my BFA in acting in May and feel I am in such limbo. I was offered a role in a wonderful Shaw play at a professional theater but told by my agents not to accept because "I would miss out on so much episodic work". But when I got the email offering me the role I felt happier than I had in months. Should I turn down the role because it isn't high profile like booking an episode on The Walking Dead? I knew doing this play (even though it is a professional theatre) would not advance my film career or help me reach my end goal of being a "successful film actress", but I decided to take it. Your post sums up all the reasons I accepted the offer and I thank you for being brave and honest and writing such a beautiful piece!

  6. I LOVE that you referenced Abraham, intuition and living in the present! I couldn't agree more with this post, Dayna. :D



By Dayna Frazer